Survey question...What if He Doesn’t Want the Baby? Still Obligated?

Hey friends!

I hope this is a fabulous mid-week for you all! This topic is a doozie! I have many male and female friends..MANY.. so I have been lucky to be exposed to 2 sides and 2 points of view to various very sensitive issues.

I have not had the opportunity to ask the views on this particular topic, so I thought I would throw it out here....


A MAN AND WOMAN ARE HAVING A CASUAL SEXUAL RELATIONSHIP (MUTUAL AGREEMENT), BUT THE WOMAN GETS PREGNANT DURING ONE OF THE ENCOUNTERS WITH THE MAN.

THE MAN SAYS HE DOES NOT WANT A CHILD (WELL... NOT FROM HER) AND OFFERS TO PAY FOR AN ABORTION.

IF THE WOMAN AGREES, GOES TO THE CLINIC THEN CHANGES HER MIND WITHOUT DISCUSSING WITH THE MAN AND DECIDES TO KEEP THE CHILD....IS THE MAN STILL OBLIGATED TO TAKE CARE OF THE CHILD??


Believe me when I say I am torn about this issue.

I have been trying to type my opinion right here and find it difficult. Children should never suffer for the errors of the parents, but parenting is more than being there for a child financially.. how can you feign love and emotional bonding? If those are absent I rather not have the man in the child's life.

If I was a man... and agreed with a woman to NOT parent a child with her..and SHE decides otherwise after... I would not be happy to be forced into that relationship with her.

On the other hand... it takes 2 people to conceive the child, so both parties should bear the consequences and step up to the plate and be a responsible parent...

Sooooooooo many different views.... Hmmm...what do you think. (hope you have better luck putting it on paper).



Nuff love and positive vibes......

Paula Yee Sing-Edwards
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Morals vs Society... ahhmmm...Does majority rule?

Hey peoplesssssssss,


Hope you all had a restful, refreshing weekend and I wish for you a most productive week. I have a topic on morals vs. society. This debate had me and my hubby arguing at length (mildly put...since I am NOT the sweetest person during an argument). But just for the record, I often play devil's advocate in our 'debates', picking any side that opposes his stance, just for the sake of arguement .


This time, however, I was really rrrrrrrrrr...although I can argue the opposite side in the right situation. It is one of those topics that is all shades of gray-kinda-ish, but should be black and white...-ish.


here we go:

The moral decay seen in todays youth stems from society accepting things that were once considered 'inappropriate' as 'normal' today.


For example... referring to a female as a BITCH. Now the young adults and teens use it to describe a close friend who has their back ("dats ma bitch", or "come on bitch"...all bring forth smiles nowadays)-


OR


A man (boy / dude) will refer to his lady as his 'ho' and even scarier, the ladies are boasting to friends that "I'm his ho" to indicate the depth of their committment.


These are NOT acceptable terms to me AT ALL, but there are those (ROGER) who argue that once the word is accepted to mean something positive, then it should no longer be considered derrogatory terms...The 'majority' determines the context and definition.


Of course I will always have to counter with: "so when we have a DAUGHTER, we should know when her boyfriend refers to her as his bitch and ho we should reply with " that's sooooooooo sweeeeeeeeeet...awwwwwwwwwwwwww...welcome to the family"!!!"


Hmm... I know it is people and society who determine wrong and right morally... but where is the line drawn? When is WRONG just wrong and RIGHT just right, regardless?


The debate went deeper... a person exposed to killings for anything, seeing abuse and murder who grows up to shoot a person for stepping on his toe...Does he think he did something wrong? If he didn't think it wrong, should he be punished at the same level as soemone who is aware of wrong-doing?


I know... it's a heavy issue with lots of angles. The fact is, any arguement you make, you YOURSELF can counter it! I would love to hear...ahmmm... read your thoughts on morality vs the society.



Nuff Love,

Paula Yee Sing-Edwards
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Survey Question 2: FRIENDS OF THE OPPOSITE SEX

The response to yesterday's blog was so tremendous...Thanks to all who emailed their views on the issue of secret bank accounts within a realtionship. I love topics of debate that evoke strong responses from both genders. Here is another controversial relationship issue that I am interested in hearing (er...reading) your views on:


MEN: ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR LADY HAVING CLOSE MALE FRIENDS? WHAT ARE THE LIMITS OF THE FRIENDSHIP? CAN SHE GO OUT WITH HIM? CAN HE STAY BE THE HOUSE? WHERE DO YOU DRAW THE LINE?

WOMEN: ARE YOU COMFORTABLE WITH YOUR MAN HAVING CLOSE FEMALE FRIENDS? WHAT ARE THE LIMITS OF THE FRIENDSHIP? CAN HE GO OUT WITH HER? CAN SHE STAY BY THE HOUSE? WHERE DO YOU DRAW THE LINE?



I itemized these separately because a general statement tend to pull safe, often untrue respones from each sex... Separating them paints the distinct picture... at least I hope so! lol!
Let me know what you think!

Looking forward to your comments

Nuff Love...enjoy your Saturday,

Paula Yee Sing-Edwards
Artiste Development
YaadNoyz Production
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